the hus-friend syndrome.

i think what most women are looking for is the loving security of a husband, who sits all night worrying when you toss feverishly, coupled with the frivolous spontanaiety of a boyfriend who brings you yellow balloons to make you feel better instead.

all about the day to day

we had a young hip teacher in college who we all looked upto a lot. she once told us that the longer you took to get married, the harder it was, because the more you wanted. she was the epitome of the cool single woman who would not bend down to tradition simply because [...]

8 weeks and I’m still married.

I remember many times, when, in a tone of genuine mirth, my mother would wonder as to who would be insane enough to marry me and what would become of the poor man. Apparently I had zero tolerance (I shouted too much), a severe lack of communication (I wasn’t interested in listening), commitment issues [...]

cats and dogs.

i think fights are worse when you are married. For one, both work on the assumption that the person is THERE, that your other half cannot go anywhere because now you are in the ultimate relationship of them all- the marriage. And hence you feel you can be daring about pushing the hurt limit…of what [...]

i spy with my bride eye.

pre-marriage wedding hopping always fun. as long as you were armed with a friend/sister whose was willing to gossip, rip, shred and enjoy, it had the makings of a perfectly entertaining evening, especially with what not people are wearing these days.
post-marriage wedding hopping has turned out to be a somewhat different…because on one level you [...]

old friends, new times.

AM was over tonight.
as old friends go…hes prolly one of the oldest. not at all a regular but its one of those hard-to-define relationships, evolved and dveloped in its own unusual way over time.
him coming over to my new place was important, especially since he missed the whole pre-shaadi process. him getting along with [...]

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rainy sunday afternoons with k.

my husband, the cooker

a popular question to be asked after marriage seems to be “tauu kya pakaya jaa raha hai aaj kal mian ke liya??” i always stumble here, not sure how to break to the sweet old lady, who probably thinks that i slave over a hot stove all day to make acha acha ghar ka khana [...]