Truly, it takes a baby- your baby– for you to start feeling shaky about the grantedness you take life for. Right down to your toes.
As people go, I think I am a pretty “faithy” person. I believe in the good over the bad, mostly and I don’t think I stress unnecessarily about bad things happening until…well…until they happen. And even then, my usual first instinct is to find something good that that comes out of it and try to focus on that. Allah ka shukar, we have been blessed and lucky in our beliefs and lives.
Having Naddu has brought on a whole new dimension to life. A scarier place to be- where having faith takes a lot more than it did before- mainly because it is not only about you. It’s about the tiny little person God created for you. Naddu goes pretty much everywhere with us. Friends places, weddings, coffeeshops, drives. Yes, I am of that school of thought. It is remarkable how many people I know have issues with that. “Dont take him everywhere- nazar lagtee hai” “Don’t expose him- nazar laghtee hai” “Aray keep him safe-nazar lagtee hai.” and yes even “Don’t take too many pictures of him- its not good.”
The concept of nazar- or evil eye- is an unusual one. By definition, it is “the belief is that a person – otherwise not malific in any way – can harm you, your children, your livestock, or your fruit trees, by *looking at them* and praising them. The word “evil” is unfortunate in this context because it implies that someone has “cursed” the victim, but such is not the case.” Having a dimply baby (modest mother aren’t I?) means that you get seen- or “eyed”- on the streets, at shops, occasions and more often than not by your own loved ones. I have had many well meaning friends, mothers and elders tell me to “nazar utaro” Naddu when I get home. Some methods require burning of chillies, some breaking of eggs with certain prayers, some visiting some mazars- I could go on.
I have been thinking about this a lot and of course everyone has to reach a conclusion that they are happy with. Mainly ever since Naddu was born, I have read the Ayatul Qursi on and the 4 Quls on him all the time- many times a day and night. That is my real-life version of staying the nazar. I cannot bring myself to do all the other stuff- because for me the power of prayer remains the strongest. Also I figure that nazar aside, I am sure the people who look at him also give their love and prayers right? Surely one cancels out the other?