We hit our 5 years married mark in a couple of months. Perhaps its not the time for that serious reevaluation and all as such but being human, and a little bit overthinky, one (read: I) cannot help but toss these little questions out to k from time to time to try and see what the stong silent part of us wonders and thinks.
We were on our way back from somewhere- just the two of us in the car and decided to detour for icecream. He put on music and was holding my hand, nice happy silence in the car when I said, “We used to do this a lot remember, just the drive and ice cream and all that talking.” Hee nodded and added, “Yea it used to be a lot of fun.” “Do you miss it, ?” I ask. “Of course..”, he says. I turned around in surprise because I honestly thought he would do the guy thing and give the safe no-i-love-my-life-as-is-right-now answer. To make me happy of course. I open my mouth to say something, and before I can, he goes on, “…but that time will come back. Better than before. There is always a time for everything.”
And just when you have finally made peace with the fact he doesn’t have the philosophy gene in him, your husband of 5 years and best friend of 7 goes and delights you once more with his deeper insight into who you are and what you need.