The Grand Scheme of Marriage, and Life.

I am not a planner really. Nor would I say I drift- but there is definitely more of a lets take things as they come kinda approach I veer towards. Call it faith, call it what you may, it suits me in a way that planning and control doesn’t. However, however much of a drifter and come as may person one may be, there are always the Grand Plans. The 5 year plans. The 10 year dreams. The things you say to each other and promises you make because you have these amazing many things you look forward to doing together as life rolls along.

Since our marriage had a rather humble beginning and K was just starting out his new job, we looked forward to one day celebrating in style. For our 5th anniversary, we decided we would work towards being in Paris- his favourite city in the world which he promised to show me the way it should be seen. We were going to stay in that little boutique refurbished hotel from World War II days and eat bread and cheese and perhaps I would try my first taste of champagne. We had thought of commissioning some street artist to do our portraits and I had imagined introducing K to the Louvre and Art as I know and love it. We were going to be walking at night on the Champs Elysees and sitting at the roadside cafes, looking at the Eiffel Tower deep in coffee and conversation. We had planned we would open and read our yearly anniversary letters to each other there,Β reminiscingΒ about the things that had happened. We had imagined a romantic interlude where we would rediscover and relive our own love story- and renew our commitment for the next 5, 10, 25 years in true storyboook style. At that point, all dreams spinning, we were definitely not going to be having twins 8 weeks later.

That’s the thing about plans, isn’t it? You can Β design them down to the smallest detail but then suddenly something Bigger happens that adds this new perspective and suddenly all the little things that you planned seem to float away a little further, becoming dreams for a more indistinct future. Wonder sets in of a new reality that tiny human brains and limited visions like ours have no capacity to dream up of or imagine. And the vastness of all that is possible- all that life is capable of giving you is suddenly, if even for just a moment, so utterly clear.


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32 thoughts on “The Grand Scheme of Marriage, and Life.”

  1. yes, its out in the open! i was DYING to yell it out as though it was MY news lol!

    HELLO WORLD!! *waves* SARA’S having TWINS, SARA’s having TWINS! (iA!)

    i’m soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo super duper happy!

    i know the TOMK moms would agree: honestly, there’s something so amazing about you that even for Allah ta’ala, giving you anything less grand just wouldn’t have sufficed it! Alhamdolillah wa mashaAllah! we’re honestly not surprised coz mA you’re totally capable of handling such grandness in all your regality ;)!

    go bask in the joy… you’re having TWINS!!!

  2. I swear if you look out of my balcony in dhaka it looks just like you are in Paris…yahan aajao. I will babysit the twins and Significant Elder…I will bring in the bubbly and set a platter of bread and cheese.

    Paris Kahee Ja Nahee Raha and why give Bruni competition at this stage?

  3. AAAAH!! WOW.. mashalla.. that is AMAZING news! congratulations πŸ™‚
    i was suspecting something and thought you’d announce on blog the same casual way like you did at Nadi’s time. but when i read the ‘twins’ bit i was like.. is that a typo?!.. and then i let out a silent scream of joy.. haha, i swear it feels like my sister or cousin is having twins.
    (in our family twins is a big thing.. we have quite a few.)

    does nadi know? is he prepared?.. i seriously cant wait to read your blog after babies inshalla! πŸ™‚
    hope you’re keeping well and i’ll pray that inshalla that next 8 weeks go smoothly for you.. and after that as well.

    you are really truly blessed.

    1. thanks so muchhh πŸ™‚ I cant wait to write after babies inshallah- should be another dimension in life – and thats pputting it mildly!

      we have NO twins so this was an out of bluer! πŸ˜€
      please do pray for us and think of us. i have 12 weeks to go atleast . 8 weeks was after anni count πŸ˜€

  4. Already congratulated you via email but now that it’s ‘official’ – CONGRATS!! Twins – wow, wow and wow! Are they girls, boys, one of each? How’re you coming along? So happy for you!

  5. Congratulations you guys!! I literally had to read over that line like 5 times before it actually registered πŸ™‚

    Very exciting πŸ™‚

  6. Congratulations on the twins!

    Your story about the dream of the 5th anniversary in Paris touched my heart.. and scared me!! I’m a planner too and he’s not so *gulp*- our life goes off-track a LOT!

    1. ohhh i wasnt trying to scare you- just kind of illustrate that though paris would have been FANTASTIC, twins are just beyind surreal. its like something we could not even have IMAGINED. so planning, dreaming and all are great but life has this way of trumping it all at times πŸ™‚

  7. Awesome way to announce your news! There’s something about twins that seems so magical, and it all seems so appropriate that you are having them. Can’t wait to find out the genders! Inshallah, have a great rest of your pregnancy.

  8. Congrats!!! I sort of knew from your old posts that you’re expecting, but didnt think of TWINS! this is soooo great, Mashallah. Can’t wait to read how Nadi feels about the lil ones when they come, Inshallah. Prayers for you πŸ™‚

  9. Mubarakaaaann from my side too ni! (drops the accent) :-p

    seriously, congratulations. πŸ™‚ please don’t name them rhyming names though. Or make them wear matching cloths beyond the age of 5. :-/

    heh. I must be such a party pooper.

  10. Agreed with Ali…but if they are identical then please get a shirt that says Ctrl+C and another one with

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